Age difference – is it important?

As everyone knows, girls as usual mature faster than boys. In the FSU countries this process is even more accelerated. Many children here know about a lack of money and food (it's not a secret that Soviet government sold corn while people there were duying from femine), they watch all that corruption and unfair proceedings of the country, challenges of life. Girls, in particular, often face behavior that in some other countries could be considered harassment: many women can find a job and earn money only if they win favor of their male bosses; often ladies are perceived as merely dolls without brains. Basic instinct of self-preservation and aiming for improvement make Russian brides search for better alternatives and men, who can appreciate them.

Until recent years there was a tendency among Russian/Ukrainian women to marry men close to their age who were either their high school sweethearts or college and university pals. Statistics show that 50-60% of marriages break within first three years of the union. Many women end up leaving the relationship with children, as well as disappointment in men their age from their home country. As a result, they turn to foreign men who are older and expect them to be more courteous, wise and caring.

An additional factor in searching for older men is also women's psychological perception. Since many girls grow up in "incomplete" families and are abandoned by their fathers, when they search for a relationship, on a subconscious level they veer more towards older partners. In other words, they are looking for a "father figure". They sometimes don’t even realize it, but when they turn to older men, they are looking for someone to be their protector, someone who'd take care of them and give them security they were deprived of as a child.

Although such pressure is getting less in the current days, until recently a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of 22-23. On the contrary, most men do not face much pressure and begin getting serious about starting a family only close to their 30s. That automatically puts a 7-8 year difference between the partners. Add to it the time that men spent with the "wrong" partner in a previous marriage or relationship, and that puts available male candidates right at their late 30s – early 40s, which creates such a drastic age difference between the ladies and them.

Bottom line is: true love has no boundaries. If you find someone who seems attractive and interests you as a person, be daring and take a chance of finding your Russian bride despite the age and distance.

The first letter to your bride

If you want to write a first letter to a lady you should make it almost perfect! In this way you can find a new friend or even your love. This letter will make the first impression about you that will affect on your relationship.

If you follow our warning tips and instructions, based on many years of experience, you'll achieve success very soon.

Instructions.

• STEP 1: Be friendly and polite. You should use friendly and polite words in your letter because it's very important to show your respect to your Russian bride. You'd better don't use nicknames and phrases like: "Hey baby" or "My hot girl" in your very first introductory letter, it's better to make a pleasant compliment for her instead. Don't worry if you really like using these words you can do it a bit later. Just wait till lady opens up for you.

• STEP 2: Keep your tone upbeat. Your letter should reflect your great mood and optimism. If you tell your future Russian bride about your difficulties, problems and complaints in your very first letter, it will definitely scare her away. Show her how happy and cheerful you are. You should understand that negativity is a major turnoff in your introduction letter. In the contrary, being positive is like a magnet. This is the example how one man began his letter: "To be quite honest, I have been putting this off as long as possible. I have friends who use dating web-sites and have had some terrible dates." This begs to ask, "what are you doing here?" And compare that with this introductory letter: "I've heard online dating is a great way to meet awesome people and that's why I want to meet you." Which one of these letter intros is more attractive? The one who wants to date "losers" or the one that wants to date "winners"? Psychologically everyone wants to be a winner. Consequently in yourvery first letter, avoid everything negative. Be positive.

• STEP 3: Share information about yourself that you think others will find interesting. Check her profile, find out about her hobbies and interests. Just imagine how it will be great if she finds out that you have so much in common.

• STEP 4: Tell the person who you are and what you are about. It will be better if you don't speak about your disadvantages in your introduction letter. In the contrary you could tell her only good things about yourself, but it's utter important to know where to stop, or else your story will look like a boasting and this won't bring positive results. Here are some phrases that will help you to describe you in a best way:

- My best friend describes me as...

- I'm happiest when I'm...

- Here's what you'd find if you looked around my place...

- A great day in my life would include...

- The last great book I read was...

- The last great movie I saw in a cinema was...

- My favorite season is...

- The color I wear most is...

- If you asked me what I'm wearing, I'd say...

- My favorite on-screen love scene is...

- The music that moves me most is...

- This morning in my car I was listening to...

- Last Saturday night I...

- The last vacation I went on was...

- The most adventurous thing I've ever done was...

- I'm happiest when I'm with someone who...

• STEP 5: Include information about your age, education and career. In accordance with statistics these three things are the most important to learn about for 80 % of ladies.

• STEP 6: You can tell about pets, favourite books, hobbies, children or anything else that might reveal a shared interest with in your new friend.

• STEP 7: Don't talk about some debatable topics. Not in a first letter. Debates and argues can be a very interesting thing to share in your letters, but only if you've already become closer to each other.

• STEP 8: Try not to overload the reader with too much information. Revealing a little bit at a time will pique the reader's interest. Remember that there must be a little secret not only in a lady but in a man as well. You'll reach great results if you make your lady wait for the next chapter of your story impatiently.

• STEP 9: Ask your future Russian bride questions so she can respond. If you speak only about yourself in your letter this won't help you at all. Remember that it's so important to have a dialog instead of monologue.

• STEP 10: Let your personality show by your choice of words and the descriptions you use.

Tips & Warnings.

• Remember not to share too much too soon. You should wait until she knows you before you reveal your family secrets and problems.

• Use careful judgment when deciding how much information to share with a stranger. Always be cautious when it comes to revealing personal information.